Creating Happiness and Well being

Did you know that every thought you think, every attitude you hold contributes to your happiness and well being?

Learn how to reprogram your mind for well being, success and happiness by using positive, focused statements called affirmations.

Adapted from: From Crappy To Happy

When we were children, we were taught by adults, teachers and peers to believe certain things about ourselves and about life. These teachings became the foundations of our beliefs and attitudes. Attitudes that were formed in our growing years can be a great source of inspiration and encouragement or personal burden and disharmony. If you grew up with loved ones who used negative statements and criticism, then it is likely that these statements still affect the way you think, the way you perform and the way you use your personal abilities.

NEGATIVE ATTITUDES, BELIEFS OR ASSUMPTIONS

Consider the following statements. "You're not very smart". "You're stupid". "Hurry up". "You're ugly". "No one likes you". "You're fat". "You're dumb". "You're lazy".

We've all heard these comments, but repeated often enough, they can become a belief in the subconscious mind. The above comments would then become: "I'm not very smart" , "I'm pretty stupid", "I have to hurry", "I'm ugly", "No one likes me", "I'm fat", "I'm dumb", "I'm lazy".

Many people I see have a number of these untruths locked away in their subconscious mind. Comments like these, train us to build up a defensive wall around our body and mind, which can lead to avoidance behaviour, illness and lack of using our creative talent. If we continue to work with such limiting thoughts and attitudes, we will thwart and suppress our natural talent. Often we turn to avoidance behaviour because we fear failure, rejection, or being hurt. It can become safer to procrastinate rather than experience life.

Look at the problem areas in your life, and then look at the corresponding beliefs that you hold.

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You have an opportunity here to change your beliefs. As part of making changes, it is crucial that you recognise the beliefs that compounds your problems.

Example 1: A woman came to see me because she was gritting her teeth and this was causing her to have headaches. As a mother and part time secretary, her thoughts went something like this: "I haven't got time", "No body ever helps me", "I have to hurry", "I can't get everything done".

As well as learning Stress Management exercises, she also had to learn to change her beliefs so that she could get the assistance she required. She changed her beliefs to: "There is a solution for everything", " Lots of people help me", "It's o.k. to ask for help", and "I can get everything done". It was hard for her to ask for help because it made her feel like a failure, but as she started to work on her belief system a funny thing happened, the headaches went and she got help with her housework.

Example 2: A lady came to see me who was frightened of losing her relationship. Her belief "no one loves me " was learnt very early in her life . Perhaps a faulty perception, but never the less, a belief that she carried through to her early thirties. She was in the process of sabotaging this relationship when we worked on her belief system. By changing her beliefs to " I am lovable and worthy of love in my life " she was able to overcome her earlier obstacle. Her relationship is now stable and there are plans for marriage in the foreseeable future.

Example 3: A year 12 student came to see me complaining of exam nerves, I asked him what he was thinking in regards to the exams. He said " I'm scared, "I get sick in exams", "I don't know my work", etc ". Through his negative statements he had projected fear thoughts forward. You can imagine what would happen during the H.S.C. with thoughts like that! Luckily though, this was early in the year and we had time to feed the subconscious sponge new thoughts " I feel so confident when I sit for the exams, I remember my work with ease, studying each night brings me success in my exams ". I also trained him to visualise the exams in a positive way. He did quite well in the H.S.C., better than anticipated by his teachers.

Negative and limiting beliefs can be abandoned, allowing you to make new choices about yourself and your life. It's not necessary for any of us to drag negative beliefs and thoughts into the future, once you learn how to change your negative beliefs to positive ones, you will begin to let go of the past beliefs and start to live for today and for a future based on happiness and success.

Be aware that every thought that you think is expressed as an affirmation on the subconscious mind. Knowing this, doesn't it make sense to ensure that your thoughts are positive and encouraging?

When you use affirmations, you are influencing the thoughts that enter your subconscious mind. Fill your subconscious mind with thoughts that support your goals. If you think "It's a great day today", your mind will begin to trigger memories of other great days and so you will enjoy the day more. If you think "I am so organised" your mind will trigger thoughts on how to be more organised and so catapult you towards fulfilling your goal. If you think "I enjoy meeting new people", your mind will bring up the confidence you require to be successful when you meet new people and thus catapult you into fulfilling your prophesy.

Positive Affirmations Examples:

It is easy for me to make friends

I enjoy meeting new people

I am becoming more organised

There is always a great solution

It's easy to be friendly

My work motivates me to achieve my best

I enjoy this challenge

I enjoy my job

I am becoming happier and more confident

I have great ideas which I action